Relationship Issues

Something that crops up on a regular basis in the WCSUK private chat group is the issue of relationships!
Most, but not all, of the women in the group are either married or in a stable relationship and the long term side effects of having a hysterectomy,  and all the hormonal side effects that brings, can have a serious impact on a relationship.
Even without the added issues of having cancer its a tough time for any relationship to go through.
Sadly even the strongest marriages have been put under stain, and  many have suffered, because of these issues.

What can we do for ourselves? Well, talking to your partner has to be the first step. If you can be open and honest with them about how you feel, very often they will be receptive and try to understand.

Many women find that they enjoy sex more after a hysterectomy but if you're not one of them then please don't think bad about yourself.
Talk to your GP about how you feel,  and maybe ask for a referral to a counsellor who can offer help with sexual problems.

Lack of sex drive can be made worse by depression and also menopausal symptoms. Also if you are worrying about your  relationship problems then this will also affect your sex drive.  These problems are often temporary, but if symptoms of menopause or depression persist then please see your doctor for treatment. 

There is a wealth of information available on the internet but I would strongly recomend the Macmillan website.
Their section on sexuality and relationships is very good. http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/Livingwithandaftercancer/Relationshipscommunication/Sexuality/Sexuality.aspx

Please do not suffer in silence. If you feel unable to talk to your partner, or they won't listen to what you have to say then seek help from your GP or a counsellor.